Steve Shiva in a white shirt, sitting on wooden temple steps in shafts of light

1:1 Coaching

Coached by a man who leads too.

Private six- and twelve-month programs for founders, executives and men ready to lead. We work on how you lead, how you love and who you are when no one is watching.

Programs are 6 to 12 month commitments. Details after the call.

Who this is for

You're not broken. You're done pretending.

You've hit a threshold. Maybe it came through heartbreak, burnout, numbness, or success that stopped meaning anything. However you got here, the mask is slipping and you can't fake it any more.

  • The leader who is done chasing the next win.You've built it. Now you want to build from something real, not from the need to prove yourself.
  • The strong one who has no one.Everyone leans on you. Your team, your family. You need a man who will hold you to account and hold you, both.
  • The man whose relationship is on repeat.Same fights, same silence. You want more depth, more fire, more truth with the woman you love.
  • The man who has gone flat.Not falling apart on the outside. Quietly numb on the inside.
  • The man ready to rise.You know there's a gift in you and you haven't yet shared it with the world. You want to find your purpose and step into your power.

Good. This is where the real work begins.

Steve Shiva on a coaching call at an outdoor table in Bali

Why me

I'm in the arena with you

I'm CEO of Temple Village, a land-based community being built in Bali. Investors, a team, deadlines and a vision bigger than one man. I know the pressure you carry because I carry it too.

Before that I was an international sales director with everything on paper and nothing inside. I walked away, faced it, and have spent the years since in psychology, somatic and tantric practice and men's work, guiding leaders, couples and men through the same descent.

  • CEO of Temple Village, Bali
  • BSc (Hons) Psychology · Graduate Member of the British Psychological Society
  • Certified Holistic Counsellor (SIAF accredited)
  • Founder of Rites of Passage

The approach

This isn't therapy. It's truth work.

No productivity hacks and no spiritual bypass. We go to the roots: the unspoken contracts, the survival strategies, the hidden grief, the lies you've built your identity around.

We work through the body, through emotion and through the live edge of your relationships. We expand your capacity to hold intensity, and build a masculine container strong enough for the chaos of the world. We don't fix you. We reveal you.

What actually changes

  • You stop performing and start living.You feel your body again, your boundaries, your hunger, your yes and your no.
  • You lead from presence, not pressure.Clear, grounded and decisive in the room and at home.
  • You hold more without breaking.More intensity in yourself, your partner, your business and the world. Still, present and contained, with your fire intact.
  • You stop abandoning yourself.For anyone or anything. No more needing to be liked, validated or understood.
  • You love and make love from truth.More depth, more honesty, more fire in your relationship.

The path

Seven stages, from earth to divinity

A structured progression from your foundations to self-leadership. Each stage follows one of the seven elements, paced and tailored to where you are.

01

Foundations

Earth · presence · trust

A steady, grounded base to lead from.

02

Self-regulation

Water · emotion · boundaries

Stay clear and resourced under pressure.

03

Drive & confidence

Fire · will · decisiveness

Act with conviction and follow through.

04

Relationships

Air · heart · intimacy

Build the connections everything depends on.

05

Communication

Sound · truth · expression

Say what you mean and stand behind it.

06

Strategic clarity

Light · vision · integrity

See clearly and decide with integrity.

07

Self-leadership

Divinity · purpose · legacy

Lead yourself, so you can lead others.

Every stage has its own workbook, practices and session recordings in your private portal.

Examples of modules

Earth: foundations & the seven stages
Earth: foundations & the seven stages
Inside: your baseline wheel
Inside: your baseline wheel
Desire Dialogue
Desire Dialogue
Fire: confidence & power
Fire: confidence & power
Inside: breaking the thought cycle
Inside: breaking the thought cycle
Mastering the Mind
Mastering the Mind
Inside: masculine & feminine polarity
Inside: masculine & feminine polarity
Brave Space Protocol
Brave Space Protocol
Air: love & relationships
Air: love & relationships
Inside: the heart chakra
Inside: the heart chakra
Emotional Release Tools
Emotional Release Tools
Inside: the Desire Dialogue
Inside: the Desire Dialogue
Water: sensuality & emotion
Water: sensuality & emotion
Inside: authentic communication
Inside: authentic communication
3-Minute Trigger Protocol
3-Minute Trigger Protocol
Light: clarity & wisdom
Light: clarity & wisdom
Inside: observe your thoughts
Inside: observe your thoughts
Self Pleasure
Self Pleasure
Conscious Communication
Conscious Communication
Divinity: self-mastery
Divinity: self-mastery
Inside: guided inquiry
Inside: guided inquiry
Keep the Fire Burning
Keep the Fire Burning
Steve Shiva on a coaching call at his laptop

What's included

What every program includes

Real change takes commitment and repetition. Every program is six or twelve months, for you alone or for you and your partner, and built around your life.

Deep sessions, alone or together

Sessions one to one, or as a couple. Online, or in person where possible. We work with the body and emotions as much as the mind.

Your private portal

Your path through the seven stages, workbooks, session recordings and notes, all in one place.

Support between sessions

Messages and voice notes with me for the moments that matter between sessions.

Tools that hold

Rituals, practices and exercises for rapid learning and real integration into daily life.

Progress you can see

Regular reviews of where you started, where you are and what's next.

Complete confidentiality

What you bring stays between us. Always.

Programs

Choose the depth of the work

6 months

Grow

  • Three sessions a month
  • Monthly integration weeks
  • Personal workbook and goals
  • Session recordings to keep
  • Message and voice-note support

12 months · executive

Ascendancy

  • Sessions when you need them
  • Priority phone and text access
  • All Transform benefits
  • Optional leadership offsite
  • Complete discretion

Investment is shared on the private call. Programs can be funded through leadership or development budgets and invoiced to your company.

In their words

Life before Steve. Life after.

Steve was amazing at helping me learn more about myself and understanding how I live my life. He knew exactly when to listen, when to check me on my BS, and how to offer advice in a way I could understand. Through the program, I was able to dive into areas of my life that I had never talked about and finally make changes. I think of my life now as life before Steve and life after Steve.

S.D.Start-up engineer & entrepreneur

Steve Shiva created a space where I could finally drop my shame and guilt. I felt truly seen and supported, grounded in a safe container where I could express myself fully. His work helped me connect deeply with my masculine energy while opening my heart with compassion. Steve is honest, disciplined, and deeply kind—a rare guide for anyone seeking true transformation.

Alexander CottleTransformational coach & founder, Unmasked Man Project

Steve Shiva is pure energy. He gives his all and doesn’t stop until the work is done. He is fearless, committed, and deeply open. If you ask for his help, you won’t be disappointed.

Frederik LundquistFormer Commissioner of Operative Staff, Swedish Police · meditation instructor

I reached out to Steve at one of the lowest points in my life. I needed a strong yet compassionate masculine presence, and he was exactly that. He held space, nurtured me, and challenged me in all the right ways. His support helped me integrate the pain I was experiencing and emerge stronger and more aligned. He’s the real deal.

Edward Price SternCoaching client

What makes a mentor truly trustworthy? Integrity. Steve Shiva walks his talk. He has done his inner work, and he brings that raw authenticity into his coaching. He doesn’t just teach—he stands beside you, helping you burn away the illusions until only the truth remains. If you are ready to live from your essence, I highly recommend working with Steve.

Paal Christian BuntzFounder, The Wildman Program · integral sexologist & tantra teacher

I felt deeply touched by the heart essence that he embodies and how it radiates through his presence and connection with others. In Shiva’s presence, I felt heard, seen, and met at a raw, deep, intimate human level—and that is a gift you don’t come across every day.

Client

In a sea of self-proclaimed coaches and healers, how do you know who’s the real deal? Steve Shiva is. I’ve witnessed his authenticity and unwavering heart through adversity. He leads with deep integrity, and his work changes lives. If you’re looking for a true guide, you’re in the right place.

James WinstanleyFounder, Ayurvedic Yoga Massage Institute

Steve listens deeply, with warmth and curiosity. His honesty and wisdom are rare, and his passion for self-exploration is contagious. Having worked closely with him through months of men’s work, I can say with certainty—he is a man I am grateful to have in my life.

Jamie WrateMen’s circle leader & coach, shamanic initiate

In today’s world, the greatest challenge for men is to open their hearts to the feminine while standing strong in unwavering awareness of life, in all its horror and beauty. Few have the courage to go beyond conditioned fear and into the core of the liberated human heart. Steve Shiva is one of those rare souls. He is deeply committed to truth and understands that we are all both a work in progress and already whole. To work with Shiva is an honor, and I am grateful to call him a brother.

Toby Pritchard

I entered the advanced program thinking commitment alone would be enough, but I learned that true transformation requires discipline. I started at the lowest point of my life, completely losing the identity I had known. Through Steve’s unwavering support, I found the strength to rebuild from within. The process was painful, but it led me to a place I never imagined—living in the body of an adult with the joy and happiness of a child. When I hit rock bottom again, I was able to climb out with discipline and perseverance. This program helped me transform from a hurt boy into an empowered man.

S.D.Entrepreneur & start-up engineer

Steve Shiva has the process, the innate wisdom, and the years of experience to assist a man on his own personal journey to deepen his self-knowledge. His work is a rare blend of depth, insight, and transformation.

John HopkinsIndependent advisor

After my first weekend retreat with Steve, I knew I had only scratched the surface—I wanted to go deeper, and I knew he was the person to guide me. His humility, integrity, and deep understanding of the psychological and emotional challenges men face are unmatched. Six months of coaching with him changed my life. I now feel deeply connected to myself, my masculinity, and my sexuality. Steve’s coaching isn’t a quick fix, but it’s a true path to transformation. I wholeheartedly recommend him to anyone seeking real, lasting change.

Dan MilbourneOnline digital investor

How it works

Three steps

1

Apply

A short application, about ten minutes. Be honest. It's the first step of the work.

2

Private call

If it's a fit, we speak. By the end of that call, you'll both know whether this is right.

3

Your program

You receive a proposal built around you, with the investment. Then we begin.

Questions

Before you apply

Is this therapy?

No. I'm psychology-trained, but this is coaching and truth work: body, emotion, relationships and leadership. If you need clinical care, I'll tell you, and point you to it.

Online or in person?

Most sessions are online, so you can work from anywhere. In-person sessions and intensives happen where location allows, including in Bali.

What does it cost?

The investment depends on the program and is shared on the private call, once we both know it's a fit.

Is it confidential?

Completely. What you bring stays between you and me.

I'm in a relationship. Can my partner join?

Yes. Sacred Partnership is the couples version of this work. See couples coaching.

What about sexuality?

It's part of the work when it's part of your life. For a dedicated focus, see Sexual Mastery.

If I need to convince you to live your truth, you're not ready.
Steve Shiva